April 8, 2016
It surprises me how fast friendships and relationships change. One day you go from being best friends and sisters with someone to them completely ignoring your existence.
Has there become this idea that relationships are one sided? I was raised that any conflict is two-sided. All relationships are two way streets. Therefore, one person cannot fix everything. If I am trying to fix the path of our relationship but they put up a massive sign and orange barrels; there isn't much I can do.
I have found that all I can do is love them anyways and pray. (Cliche I know) It hurts. But all relationships do. When you care, you open yourself to vulnerability and getting hurt. Sometimes more than you would ever want to admit. (I'm there)
However, there are the friends that are God given blessings. Those are the ones that you need to hold onto because they're irreplaceable. They can be the biggest role models for what a true friend looks like. (I missed that a lot.) I wasn't a good friend to Texas, Fluffette or my little sister for a long time. while they say it's nbd; I can't. I had to apologize and realize that I needed to have a better understanding of being a friend.
I have learned what it means to be a true friend from them. It's not pouring out word vomit about life to them about how awful life it sometimes. It is saying hey I'm not okay right now but pray for me. It is creating that two way street with them. That if I need to talk and need a shoulder then I need to be that shoulder too. I have so much love and respect for them that they have taught me this.
Sometimes it takes the hurt and pain to learn. God brings people into and out of our lives for a purpose and I promise 99 percent of the time we won't understand. But there's a reason. Trust Him.
I am seeing what good and bad friends are now and how much people change. No, it's not easy to go through life without people you genuinely love but there are seasons to life and friendships. Those seasons are how we change and grow and how our friendships change.
Just remember to evaluate the kind of friend you are being to those around you. That is what is most important. Self-reflecting who we are and how we are affecting those around us.
Are you being a good or bad friend?
xoxo,
Em
It surprises me how fast friendships and relationships change. One day you go from being best friends and sisters with someone to them completely ignoring your existence.
Has there become this idea that relationships are one sided? I was raised that any conflict is two-sided. All relationships are two way streets. Therefore, one person cannot fix everything. If I am trying to fix the path of our relationship but they put up a massive sign and orange barrels; there isn't much I can do.
I have found that all I can do is love them anyways and pray. (Cliche I know) It hurts. But all relationships do. When you care, you open yourself to vulnerability and getting hurt. Sometimes more than you would ever want to admit. (I'm there)
However, there are the friends that are God given blessings. Those are the ones that you need to hold onto because they're irreplaceable. They can be the biggest role models for what a true friend looks like. (I missed that a lot.) I wasn't a good friend to Texas, Fluffette or my little sister for a long time. while they say it's nbd; I can't. I had to apologize and realize that I needed to have a better understanding of being a friend.
I have learned what it means to be a true friend from them. It's not pouring out word vomit about life to them about how awful life it sometimes. It is saying hey I'm not okay right now but pray for me. It is creating that two way street with them. That if I need to talk and need a shoulder then I need to be that shoulder too. I have so much love and respect for them that they have taught me this.
Sometimes it takes the hurt and pain to learn. God brings people into and out of our lives for a purpose and I promise 99 percent of the time we won't understand. But there's a reason. Trust Him.
I am seeing what good and bad friends are now and how much people change. No, it's not easy to go through life without people you genuinely love but there are seasons to life and friendships. Those seasons are how we change and grow and how our friendships change.
Just remember to evaluate the kind of friend you are being to those around you. That is what is most important. Self-reflecting who we are and how we are affecting those around us.
Are you being a good or bad friend?
xoxo,
Em
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