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Flirty or Friendly?

March 2,  2016

I have just come to the recent realization that guys are really confusing. After almost 20 years of dealing with them you'd think I would've learned by now? (No).

Distinguishing between whether or not a guy friend is just being nice or being flirty is so hard. Especially, when you are getting to know him. One of my closest guy friends who is slowly becoming my best guy friend has driven this struggle bus for me.

He is a super touchy person but I never knew if he was being flirty with it or it was just how he was. The hugs and kind of hand holding was so confusing. There would be moments when I would say "yes he is flirting" and moments when "no he is just being nice."

How do you distinguish between nice and flirty?

In my experience, the only way to know is to ask. (grasp!!) I know the awkward conversation about are we friends or more than friends is never comfortable. Having a DTR (define the relationship) with anyone isn't easy but what I learned is that if you don't ask then you set yourself up for more confusion.

Let's face it boys aren't getting any less confusing anytime soon. So, I keep going and try to figure out boys. Maybe someday, I will coin a book and make millions. (don't hold your breathe on that one though).

While having a DTR isn't easy it can be what is best for a friendship.

I've had my DTR's. Have you? Do you need to?

xoxo,
Em

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